Written by: Jessie Herman (life coach, artist, and spiritual channeller)

Discovering Human Design: The Missing Piece I Didn’t Know I Was Searching For

Like so many women, I used to live my life according to what I thought I “should” be doing.

I followed the rules, worked hard, pushed through when I was tired, and felt guilty when I wasn’t being productive enough. I tried everything in my power to follow the rules of being in the world… and it never quite felt right.

I was successful in many ways, creatively, professionally and as a mom, but I didn’t feel at peace inside. I struggled with health issues, exhaustion and burnout, and a constant underlying sensation of tension between the person I was and the person I felt I was supposed to be.

Then, one day, someone mentioned a system called ‘Human Design’ that I had never heard of.

They said it helped them understand why they were the way they were, and why some things felt easy and natural, and others felt like walking uphill through mud. I was instantly curious (and definitely a little sceptical).

But allowing myself to open to that curiosity was eventually what changed everything.

When I got my own Human Design chart read, I felt seen in a way I never had before.

All the quirks and contradictions that I used to judge about myself suddenly made sense. For the first time in my life, I realised that the things that made me different weren’t flaws to fix.

Instead they were my unique superpowers.

My entire life I thought I was some sort of beachball trying to play on the basketball court of life and never quite making a basket. Human Design showed me that no, I wasn’t a beachball on that court at all. I was actually a toaster-oven and had no business attempting to play basketball in the first place.

Since then, I’ve integrated Human Design into both my personal life and my work. I use it with clients in my coaching, with my children, even in how I structure my business. It’s become one of the most accurate and compassionate maps I’ve ever encountered for understanding who we (and others) really are on the blueprint level.

So what exactly is Human Design?

What Is Human Design (and Why Does It Matter)?

Human Design is often described as the intersection of science and spirituality. 

It’s a system that combines astrology, the I Ching, the Kabbalah, and quantum physics to create a personalised energy blueprint.

Think of it as a user manual for your soul.

I often see it as the original blueprints for a historical building, things have moved around since its construction - electricity and plumbing have been added for functionality over the years, and the wallpaper and furniture have changed with the times - but Human Design is evidence of the original architecture of what your life had intended to be on the energetic level.

Using your date, time, and place of birth, it reveals how your energy is designed to flow, how you make decisions, how you interact with others, and where you’re most likely to take on conditioning from the world around you. There are 5 different types - Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector.

If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I keep repeating this pattern?” or “Why can’t I just be more like them?”, Human Design provides the most liberating answer imaginable through discovering your type:

Because you’re not meant to be.

You’re designed to be you.

Fully, unapologetically, and effortlessly.

Here are 5 ways Human Design can completely transform your life.

1. You Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else

We live in a world that loves to tell us what “success” looks like: wake up early, hustle hard, think positive, push through, repeat.

But what if you’re not designed to work that way?

For me, discovering that I’m a Manifestor in Human Design was revolutionary.

Only 9% of the population holds this energetic role so learning about it explained why I’ve always thrived on creative bursts followed by deep rest, and why trying to keep a constant pace like others only led to burnout.

Human Design teaches that each of us has a different energetic rhythm.

When you understand yours, you stop measuring your worth against others. You begin to honour your natural flow and life starts feeling more easeful and aligned.

In my case, it’s not laziness or lack of motivation. It’s simply alignment with how my energy actually works. 

When doing readings for other people on their Human Design, I’m always thrilled when I see the info click into place for them and the freedom that that provides.

2. You Finally Understand How to Make Decisions That Feel Right

How many times have you talked yourself into something that felt wrong in your gut, only to regret it later?

Some people are meant to follow their gut instincts, others their emotions, intuition, or even subtle bodily sensations that say “yes” or “no.”

Learning to follow my emotional authority changed everything.

I stopped forcing clarity before I was ready, and began giving myself permission to feel through decisions instead of rushing them.

I now sleep on my decisions, set boundaries with people to give me the right amount of time for myself to know what's correct for me, and take my emotions less like indications of direction and more as gathering vital information to see the whole picture with clarity.

And remember, not everyone is meant to make decisions in this way. Your Human Design chart tells you your unique way.

When you align your choices with your body’s natural wisdom, you move from second-guessing yourself to trusting yourself - and that’s when magic happens.

3. You Improve Every Relationship in Your Life

This one might be my favourite.

When you start seeing others through the lens of their Human Design, judgment disappears. Instead of expecting everyone to think, feel, or act like you, you begin to appreciate the diversity of human expression.

Understanding my children’s designs, both of them Generators for instance, helped me become a more compassionate mother. I stopped trying to make them “fit” my expectations and started supporting them according to who they truly are.

In relationships, it softens the edges. You communicate differently. You stop taking things personally. You realise that love isn’t about sameness, it’s about resonance.

And from that place, connection deepens naturally.

I still find myself drawing on the info I have from friends, family and colleagues on their Human Designs on a regular basis. Having this info is like having a superpower and window into how they tick.

4. You Stop Fighting Yourself and Start Flowing with Life

Most of us have been taught to “fix” ourselves. Whether that's to become more confident, more disciplined, more outgoing, more calm, more anything.

But Human Design flips that completely.

It shows you what’s innately you and what’s simply conditioning from the outside world. Once you recognise the difference, you can let go of the exhausting effort to be someone you’re not. You get to start living your life as you. 

For me, this meant accepting that I’m not here to respond to life like others are. I'm here to initiate it.

I stopped waiting for permission, validation, or perfect timing and began trusting the impulses that come through me.

That simple shift opened the doors to everything from new creative projects to deeply aligned relationships.

Life feels lighter when you’re no longer swimming against your own current.

5. You Step into Your Purpose (Without Needing to “Find” It)

So many women I meet feel lost when it comes to purpose. They’ve achieved things, built families, grown careers but something still feels incomplete.

Human Design doesn’t give you a purpose. It reminds you of the one you already have.

It reveals your natural gifts and the environments where you’re most magnetic, inspired, and fulfilled. It helps you see the bigger picture of why you’re here and how you’re meant to express your energy in the world.

For me, Human Design was the piece that started to tie everything together for me;  my channeling work with Vagrein, my spiritual teachings, my creative life, even how I show up in relationships. It gave me permission to be all of it.

When you understand your design, you stop chasing purpose and start embodying it.

Ready to Experience It for Yourself?

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I want to know my own design,” you’re in beautiful company.

That same spark of curiosity that led me to explore Human Design, could be the beginning of your own transformation.

You can book a private 1:1 Human Design session with me to dive deep into your chart, understand your energy type, and learn how to align your life with who you truly are.

 Book your session here

I’d also love to meet you in person at our MWN Human Design workshop on November 11th -  an evening of insight, laughter, and maybe even a few lightbulb moments about your own unique blueprint. 

All participants will receive a coupon code for 30% off a private 1hr Human Design reading with me.

Come curious. Leave transformed.

Final Thoughts

Human Design isn’t a belief system. It’s a mirror. A reminder that there was never anything wrong with you to begin with.

When you stop trying to fix yourself and start understanding yourself, everything changes - your relationships, your work, your energy, your peace.

So if you’ve been searching for clarity, self-acceptance, or a little cosmic guidance on your path…this might just be the map you’ve been waiting for.

About the Author

Jessie Herman is a channel for the non-physical entity group Vagrein, a life coach, energy healer and a spiritual teacher whose work has been featured on Gaia TV, Next Level Soul, Insight Timer and other international platforms. 

She has published two books with Vagrein Seeking Ends When Sharing Begins and Insight both available on Amazon.

She hosts live and online events, retreats and workshops and has online courses that can uplevel your life in a myriad of ways.She helps people align with their authentic selves and live with clarity, ease, and authenticity. Connect with her via her website, Instagram or YouTube.

Proofread & Edited By: Ché Maria Milani

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